Do you ever wonder why...

[ChrisExtreme]

ugly people date ugly people?

I mean I'm sure most people don't look in the mirror and say damn I'm ugly. And even if they do, what attracts them to other ugly people? Shouldn't everyone want to be with someone who is hot/sexy?

Don't give me the "it's whats on the inside that counts" crap.

[kdoublei]

but the "pretty/handsome" people dont want to neccessarily date someone ugly, unless their paid

[Minte]

Nope,never thought about it.

[Angel]

but the "pretty/handsome" people dont want to neccessarily date someone ugly, unless their paid

There it is, I think it's a "settle for what you can get" type of deal.

[ChrisExtreme]

Nope "settle" doesn't work. Like I said ugly people don't look at themselves as ugly, so they are not settling for less.

[Angel]

I'm not saying settling for less per se i'm saying settling for what you can get, people are afraid of rejection, they don't take a chance on someone who they see as a "ten" because they're afraid of being rejected so they settle for someone lower than the "ten".

[Reppy]

Nope "settle" doesn't work. Like I said ugly people don't look at themselves as ugly, so they are not settling for less.

Yet some people do regard themselves as being ugly.

[Reppy]

Don't give me the "it's whats on the inside that counts" crap.

You can't fit everyone in a box.

Some people are all about the 'whats on the inside that counts' crap.

[ChrisExtreme]

You can't fit everyone in a box.

Some people are all about the 'whats on the inside that counts' crap.

I call bullshit on that.

99.9% of people hook up cause of physical attraction. They may not last more then a 5 minute conversation to explore what is on the inside but no one says "hey let go to talk to that girl/guy even they I don't find them attractive to see whats on the inside."

[ChrisExtreme]

I'm not saying settling for less per se i'm saying settling for what you can get, people are afraid of rejection, they don't take a chance on someone who they see as a "ten" because they're afraid of being rejected so they settle for someone lower than the "ten".

So you're saying people can hook up even without physical attraction out of fear of rejection.

That still doesn't fit into my observations though. Then why do fat people hook up with fat people? Common food interests

[Reppy]

I call bullshit on that.

99.9% of people hook up cause of physical attraction. They may not last more then a 5 minute conversation to explore what is on the inside but no one says "hey let go to talk to that girl/guy even they I don't find them attractive to see whats on the inside."

Call bullshit all you want but there's a whole world outside your taste, opinion and logic.

[ChrisExtreme]

Call bullshit all you want but there's a whole world outside your taste, opinion and logic.

I'm not talking about personal taste or opinion. These are my observations, I've seen it first hand time and time again and it makes me wonder.

[AbulletAway]

I think people don't like to admit it but they tend to settle for less. They find someone to be with that likes them, they know they're not all that attractive themselves so they don't think they have a shot at the hot ones so they settle. "We don't always get what we want, but if we try sometimes we might just get what we need."

[Angel]

Okay then Chris tell us what your observations give as an explanation

[KRM]

I don't care if somebody is hot or ugly, All that matters is if they put out or not and are willing to wear a mask of Jessica Alba while we fuck.

[ChrisExtreme]

Okay then Chris tell us what your observations give as an explanation

On a regular basis I observe ugly people with ugly people and I don't believe they are settling. I think they really are attracted to each other and I wonder what it is that makes that possible. By the looks of the responses here no one else notices this or you all chalk it up to settling.

[AbulletAway]

On a regular basis I observe ugly people with ugly people and I don't believe they are settling. I think they really are attracted to each other and I wonder what it is that makes that possible. By the looks of the responses here no one else notices this or you all chalk it up to settling.

I think they really can care for each other or even love each other. I don't think people see that they do settle though. We rationalize everything we do. For example. There was this fat girl that really, really liked me a few years ago. I wasn't attracted to her physically, mentally I thought she had issues there just wasn't any part of her personality I liked. Now at the time I had met her she was like over 300 lbs. She was a friend I guess and she had it for me bad. Thought I walked on water. She had already lost like 120 lbs but she was still huge. She was still on her diet, she was still losing weight.

We got in to this conversation one night. She was again telling me about how she wants to get down to 140. How I'm the greatest guy in the world and all that. She said she wants to meet someone now who will love her for who she is so that when she loses the weight she'll know the guy loves her for her and not because she's a "hottie". I was telling her that it ain't gonna happen. Being is fat is part of who she is, if she meets someone and then becomes skinny it will change her and it will probably change the relationship to because dude she loves might like the faties? Her attitude might change because now she has a new self confidence and might want a more studly of a guy. She denied it over and over again.

Not five minutes later she's telling me how she can't wait to be skinny so she doesn't have to put up with this shit. And, by that she meant, having to be nice and friendly. I tried to explain to her that she just made my point for me. That she just admitted it would change her. And that, all her talk about how skinny people don't see the real person inside was just bullshit. She just said that she couldn't wait to be skinny so she could pick and choose the guy she wanted instead of having to settle for someone that will say yes. She still didn't get it, still didn't see my point.

She eventually made to it 148 when I last talked to her. She looked much better but I was sooo not interested in her. She was telling me how she's been kinda slutty lately. She's just thrilled that all these guys find her attractive now. She just can't say no. Kinda funny I thought, all that talk about the person inside, being ready for a relationship and looking for that one good man. Now, she's fucking every dude she can and the main guy she was dating sounded like a real charmer, no job, crashed her car but it's all good to her because he's hot.

We all settle. Doesn't make it a bad thing. We find someone, we may even love them and if we're lucky we're even attracted to them. But we all settle in one way or another and ugly people settle to.

[Angel]

On a regular basis I observe ugly people with ugly people and I don't believe they are settling. I think they really are attracted to each other and I wonder what it is that makes that possible. By the looks of the responses here no one else notices this or you all chalk it up to settling.

But what do you think it is that makes it possible if you don't believe it's settling? I'm not drilling you i'm just curious what your take on it is

[ChrisExtreme]

That's a better explanation.

I know a lot of people that get to a point in their lives where they feel the need to settle. Not I, my standards are high and will remain that way

[ChrisExtreme]

But what do you think it is that makes it possible if you don't believe it's settling? I'm not drilling you i'm just curious what your take on it is

Maybe it's a bizarro world type of thing.

Ugly people look at themselves as "hot" and look at "hot" people as ugly. So when then hook up with another ugly person, in their eyes that person is hot.

Of course this theory is kind of weak because society shows us the definition of "hot" all day everyday. TV, movies, magazines, online, we all see "hot" people.

[Angel]

Bizarro world, that was awesome
Could be though but then again what if ugly isn't really ugly it's hot and what if hot isn't hot but it's ugly but no one knows and it's like a Twilight Zone type of thing

[ChrisExtreme]

I'm going by the standard scale of 1-10 with trailer park Bertha on the low end and super model Giselle Bundchen on top

[Reppy]

Ugly people look at themselves as "hot" and look at "hot" people as ugly. So when then hook up with another ugly person, in their eyes that person is hot.

Of course this theory is kind of weak because society shows us the definition of "hot" all day everyday. TV, movies, magazines, online, we all see "hot" people.

Interesting theory, but I will agree with you, very weak.

[rockhard8]

such an ugly thread

[Goblin]

most of them get dates on opposite day there is it settled if it is not whats on he inside thenhdo you sometimes see fat and/or ugly people wuth skinny/nice looking people well i know there is fat/ugly with fat/ugly but like i said what about when it is the other way what made that happen?

[volante]

I'm going by the standard scale of 1-10 with trailer park Bertha on the low end and super model Giselle Bundchen on top

Everyone's opinion on what's hot is different - I would only rate Giselle Bundchen 9 out of 10. Hell, I even know some guys who'd only give Jessica Alba 7 out of 10

How about posting some pictures of yourself and women you've been out with so we can rate them?

[Reppy]

How about posting some pictures of yourself and women you've been out with so we can rate them?

I know I'm going to embarrass ChrisExtreme by posting this, but here are a couple of the ugly bitches he's been known to hang out with...

[ChrisExtreme]

Everyone's opinion on what's hot is different - I would only rate Giselle Bundchen 9 out of 10. Hell, I even know some guys who'd only give Jessica Alba 7 out of 10

How about posting some pictures of yourself and women you've been out with so we can rate them?

This thread is about my observations and the things that make me go hmmm. It's not about my own life lol. My pic has been posted before and as far as the women I've been out with it, all I can say is I have good taste. Not only by my standards, but also going by the comments of the people around me

[XxXotic]

I call bullshit on that.

99.9% of people hook up cause of physical attraction. They may not last more then a 5 minute conversation to explore what is on the inside but no one says "hey let go to talk to that girl/guy even they I don't find them attractive to see whats on the inside."

but you're also assuming that every relationship starts out as someone macking on some hooch at the bar or something. What about people who have been friends for years and wound up falling in love with one another?

I'll agree that most of the time it's about physical attraction but not all cases. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, what you think is "hot" other people don't and vice versa

[rockhard8]

I know I'm going to embarrass ChrisExtreme by posting this, but here are a couple of the ugly bitches he's been known to hang out with...

are you kidding I'd have a field day with those 2

[Jill_J]

I'm not saying settling for less per se i'm saying settling for what you can get, people are afraid of rejection, they don't take a chance on someone who they see as a "ten" because they're afraid of being rejected so they settle for someone lower than the "ten".

you're right!

[ChrisExtreme]

but you're also assuming that every relationship starts out as someone macking on some hooch at the bar or something. What about people who have been friends for years and wound up falling in love with one another?

I'll agree that most of the time it's about physical attraction but not all cases. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, what you think is "hot" other people don't and vice versa

You make a good point.

[Angel]

This thread is about my observations and the things that make me go hmmm. It's not about my own life lol. My pic has been posted before and as far as the women I've been out with it, all I can say is I have good taste. Not only by my standards, but also going by the comments of the people around me

But would the people around you still be around you if they told you the girl you were with was nasty?