View Full Version : I may never sleep again. Make it stop!

02-28-2009, 09:31 AM
Last night Natalie sends me this link:

A 2 year old died in a car fire due to an intersection not having a 4 way stop. Pretty tragic, it chokes me up enough reading these stories.

But then, Natalie goes on to tell me how one of the mom's on the forum she frequents was the mom that went into the fire to pull the child out. She's currently in the hospital with 3rd degree burns.

Again, tragic but I'm inspired... she went through hell trying her best to save that boy.

But THEN....

Natalie tells me how she could hear this little boy screaming "Mommy hot, Mommy! too hot!!!" as he was being burned alive.

omg, I'm tearing up just writing this. I couldn't stop thinking about it. I still can't. I was awake most of the night, imagining what it would have been like to be there... to hear that, to see it.. to try everything you could and still not be able to help this poor child who has no idea what is happening but is more terrible pain than most any one has ever had to experience.

Meanwhile, this is affecting me this much just imagining. Just playing it out in my head. This woman is in pain in the hospital with 3rd degree burns, unable to pre-occupy her mind with anything else and she doesn't have to imagine it. She lived it.
I couldn't imagine what she must be going through.

Sorry if this bothers any of you as much as it does me, I hope you're stronger than I am. I just feel I needed to post about it. It's been eating me up all night already. Maybe getting it out of my head will help.

02-28-2009, 09:36 AM
If you were there you would have done the same thing and tried and not even think about it. It's natural reaction to try and save someone. The outcome can be haunting tho. Hang tough man.

02-28-2009, 10:49 AM
I am so much moreemotional regarding kids since I had mine, it really changes you

02-28-2009, 11:01 AM
thats really sad especially with children, who have the opportunity in life cut short.. really sad

02-28-2009, 11:05 AM
Stories like these really impact you, especially when you think about the kids who never even had a chance to do anything really. My fiance works with a family who has one child with autism and the mother was pregnant with her second. Unfortunately it came out stillborn due to a wrapped umbilical cord and she had to explain to the autistic child why their relative wasn't coming home :(

02-28-2009, 01:05 PM
omg.. How awful. :(

02-28-2009, 04:42 PM
That's terrible. i wouldn't want to imagine that scenario... then i could never enjoy my kids, but if it happened, I would probably do the same as she did and so would anyone else. At least she can't blame herself for not trying her best, even though she probably will anyways.

02-28-2009, 09:30 PM
Very very sad :(

02-28-2009, 09:40 PM
That's a very sad story. I hate hearing about stuff like this happening to little kids.

03-01-2009, 04:59 PM
It's a terrible thing.. poor kid and mom.

03-01-2009, 08:47 PM
It happens all the time in car crashes where there is a fire. People just don't realise it. I remember a porn star that was driving her sports car to fast and ended up trapped in the flaming vehicle.

I talked to a fireman that was on scene. He said she made the most blood curdling horrible screams as she burned to death while they tried to free her.

He said he had seen a lot in his career but could never sleep right after that.

03-02-2009, 07:06 AM
that's a really awful story and you have every right to feel upset. If that story doesn't affect you then you're not really human. It's horrible for a mother to witness her young child dying in such a gruesome fashion and have no power to save him.


03-02-2009, 07:12 AM
dude that's horrific. i've been witness to/lived through some fucked up shit but never something that intense. wow...

03-02-2009, 07:51 AM
It's tragic alright. Now you know why cops and fireman have warped senses of humor. It's either that or eat a bullet. I used to have nightmares for a long time. I thought they'd never go away. Still have them from time to time. But, I can now go months and sometimes years without waking up screaming.

Did you ever see Band of Brothers? There was a character in that movie, I won't say his name in case you've never seen the series. But, he was a hero. He was one of the guys that a lot of people looked up to. But, one day he had just scene enough, some close to him had died. Other's close to him had died before but this time, he just couldn't take it any more. He reached his capacity, his limit. It was so sad to see. We all have a limit I suppose. For some it's greater than others but I am pretty sure we all have one.

These kinda of things can haunt you because you can't stop thinking about it. The key is to just stop thinking. Sounds simple enough. But, but brainless activity can be the key. Hearing some tasteless jokes, watching brainless comedies, basically dumming down yourself is they key. Now I am not saying, grow a beard and never work again. Just saying, right now your brian is in overdrive thinking about the tragedy. Key, work thinking. Do, things that require little thought. It will change your mood and eventually get back on track.

03-02-2009, 08:34 AM
That's really very sad :(.....

03-02-2009, 02:11 PM
That's so terrible :( Maybe send the woman in hospital a "get better" card that you make with your kids? Don't explain to them all the horrific details, obviously, but tell them a woman who did her very best to help another kid who got hurt is needing some encouragement. It might give you some closure, at least.

Be well, Stuart.